This blog is to share my inner thoughts. The light and heavy side of things-I have never been a fan of shaming others. Along my journey, I feel that it is a messed up way of trying to get your message across. The show goes on and unfortunately-shaming will manifest in a human in different ways depending how that human being processes it. In more harmful ways than we know...
I have been a strong advocate of love-is this a way to show love? Some say yes, its tough love but once a human being goes through it, it is a learned behavior. Unfortunately, it is the normal in some homes out there. Shaming devalues a soul, breaking that person down. There's a difference with truth being shared with "Constructive" feedback than telling that person they're a horrible person for their own selfish gain. That selfish gain coming from pride and anger for whatever reason was the issue that started it.
Self gratification is real especially when your whole life you were taught to look our for your own first. I can see others thinking that is ok but that this way of treating one self is similar to the airplane oxygen mask safety model. Where the adult puts their mask on first than the child's afterwards. There's self development, self care, and self gratification. Self development develops one's self at level of picking of some type of skill to progress the human being's skills. Self care it to care for one's mental and physical well being. Self gratification is to please your own desire, a want more than a need. Self development and care are needs for the human being. Self gratification is more of an unhealthy habit.
Shaming is an unhealthy human habit and another form of emotional abuse. It is verbal aggression to intimidate, humiliate, and manipulating someone's self worth. This causes anxiety, suicidal thoughts and behavior, depression, PTSD, and so much more. Than we wonder why we have so many problems in society. Well, because the cause and effect is always going to be apparent in human nature.
May 2020 bring better fortune than it has-cheers!
